Friday, December 26, 2014

I Need That: Rebdolls Tuxedo Envelope Dress

This dress though!!! The most creatively well put together AFFORDABLE plus size dress I've seen in years. You not going to be able to tell me nothing in this dress. I definitely need this in my life. That draping in the front to hide the tummy while showing off the girls, yessss honey!

I've only bought one thing from Rebdolls, the Missy Piggy tee, but I love their styles and will be buying from them more. Plus, I love that they are affordable and won't side track my budget if I impulsively buy something.

Get it over at Rebdolls

What y'all think? Yay or Nay?

Wednesday, December 24, 2014

Happy Holidays!

I'd like to send a very Happy Holidays, Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Happy Kwanzaa to everyone. Have a safe and fun day :)

Monday, November 10, 2014

I Need That: Monif C Leopard Lace Jumpsuit

Monif C has done it yet again. She is snatching wigs and edges with her ON POINT holiday collection. I just can't get enough of her designs. This Ricki Tuxedo Jumpsuit is giving me LIFE! The lace and the red is beyond sexy. There is no way you are not leaving the party without at least 2 phone numbers in this outfit. Chiiiiiiile I need this ASAP!

Shop the full collection

What are your thoughts? Are you feeling this?

Thursday, November 6, 2014

New Arrivals: What's Hot and New This Week

I normally pick just one retailer to feature with their hottest new arrivals for the week, but there's so much fly ish out there that I couldn't pick just one. I've picked the top 5 items I've seen around this week that are new and fresh.


1. Fashion to Figure, Leather Dress with Mesh

Yes, Chick, Yes. So I need somewhere to go so I can where this dress. Is this not sexy as hell??

2. Rebdolls, Long Mesh Stripe Top

I love this top! You can make this top your own by wearing whatever you want under it. Want to show some extra skin rock a tube top under, what to cover up a tummy then rock a cardigan underneath. You can probably rock a long sleeve top under it for fall. I love how this top flows.

3. Forever 21, Mesh-Paneled Dress

The scalloped neckline with the mesh is fun and different. This dress is great for GNO, date night and even holiday parties.

4. Evans, Penguin Sweater

How cute? The graphic animal sweater trend is still in full effect and I'm still on board.

5. Torrid, Ponte and Leather Skater Skirt

I think skater skirts are the most flattering type of skirt in the history of skirts. I don't wear skirts much because I hate how they look on me, but I LOVE me a skater skirt.

Which one would you rock?

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

5 Plus Size Sweater Dresses to Get You Through Winter

I LOVE FALL! It is my favorite season. Not just because the weather is fabulous, the trees look picturesque and salted caramel hot chocolate is back at Starbucks and Dunkin Donuts, but also because the fashion is the best! Layers on layers on layers. Cozy hoodies and sweaters. And don't forget the boots. But, one of my fav pieces to rock in the fall is a sweater dress.

Finding the perfect sweater dress is not easy. It can't be too bulky so you don't look like the Michelin man. It can't be itchy, no one wants to be scratching their ass all day. It can't be too thin because then its not warm and thin sweaters aren't forgiving to bulges. Definitely gotta rock the Spanx under the dress. And get a pair of fabulous tights.

Lucky for you I've dug around to find some stylish plus size sweater dresses for fall (and winter).

1. Ashley Stewart, Ribbed Sweater Dress

Don't be afraid of stripes! The hint of red is uber sexy. It also comes in black and white.


2. Macy's, INC Colorblock Sweater Dress

This dress screams preppy nautical chic with a hint of sexy. That total look she's rocking is on point.

3. Target, Mossimo Sweater Dress

The way the colorblocking falls on this dress it gives the effect of a slimmer waist. I'm always here for that.

4. Avenue, Contrast Sweater Dress

Um, let me find out Avenue done stepped their game up. This dress is hot!

5. Lane Bryant, Leopard Sweater Dress

Yasss chick, yasss. I need this in my closet like yesterday. Loving this print and the zip pockets.

Friday, August 8, 2014

Real Talk: Making Friends in Adulthood

Let's be real. Its mad easy to meet people as an adolescent. You mix and mingle in school have your clique of friends, or your BFF and your always around people of your age. Your bound to find at least one person you have enough in common with who doesn't work your nerves. You get to college and its the same...surrounded by your peers making it easier to find at least one person you click with. But, in adulthood, its not so easy.

I have moved twice since I left Philly 6 years ago. I did the NJ/NYC thing and now I'm in NC. Both were big scary moves and this meant moving away from my friends. I have a few friends from childhood that are my ride or dies and I have my friends I've made in adulthood. Almost all of those adult friends I made at jobs. When I moved to NC I was so upset because that meant starting over meeting people in my new city. I still can call my girls back in the northeast and see them once or twice a year, but nothing beats having at least one person to go out and do things with on a regular basis. From what I've found MANY people are in the same boat as I, with almost every person I've met in NC being from another state and they've expressed how hard it is to meet new people and make friendships. Transplants unite! So, what's a fabulous introverted social butterfly like myself supposed to do??

If you're like me and craving human contact and like to get out and do things, here are some options for you. And YES some of these may sound intimidating, but if I can do it so can you. I'm an introvert with social anxiety and I've done everything on this list at least once.

  • - THE website for doing stuff and meeting people. When I say there is literally a group for everyone and there are groups all over the US, I mean why not? And if you don't see a group you want, create your own. Its free to join most groups and the ones that do have dues its usually like $12 a year. I've joined several groups and have gone to several events and had fun (well mostly...I'll save my story for another post) and it's good to meet people and do something you enjoy.
  • Sportsvite - I came across this site one day when I was Googling finding people to workout with. This site is great for finding workout buddies or organized sports leagues in your area. I've met a couple of people off of here and burned some calories playing sports!
  • Work - Many people become friends with their coworkers and many don't. When I came to my current job, my team members didn't even have each other's cell numbers!  I had everyone's number by my second week. Now they all do and we've gone out many times and had a ball. I also organize team happy hours or if I have a meeting with someone who seems cool I will mention we should hang out sometime or do lunch. That's a great way to get to know people outside of work. Many of my closest friends stemmed from work relationships.
  • Out and About - You may meet a friend in the strangest of places the same way love may come calling in the aisle of a Walmart. One of my friends I made here in NC is the nurse from my Allergist office. I used to come in once a week for allergy shots (I have the worst allergies ever) and we'd chat and we hit it off. We friended each other on Facebook made plans to hang out and the rest is history.
  • Facebook - Don't sleep on the groups on Facebook. There are tons of groups on Facebook for any topic you can think of. I'm in a few Natural hair groups, dating groups, fashion groups, etc. As I mentioned in my previous post, I met the last guy I dated on Facebook in a dating group. If you're having great dialogue with some people in a group and they don't live far from you, ask about meeting up offline.
I'll be creating a post to piggyback on this topic about when its time to let a friend go and to know when a situation isn't for you.

 What are some ways you've met friends in your adult life?

Thursday, August 7, 2014

Travel Chic: How to be Fashionable While Traveling

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I've done more traveling in the last year than, like, ever. My job has had me traveling the country and my personal life has me doing the same. I've almost become a pro at packing and airport antics, but most importantly I've finally figured out the perfect combo of pieces to wear to have me comfortable and fly.

Here are my 6 rules for a good travel outfit:

  • Must have pockets. I need to be able to access my boarding pass, ticket, photo ID with ease. I hate digging in my purse every 5 minutes.
  • Must be comfortable. If I'm on a long flight or driving a ways I of course want to be comfortable.
  • Must have layers. Planes are COLD AF! Even my cardigan was not getting me through one of my flights. But, layering is good so if its hot you can undress and if its cold you can add. Plus, you may be going from cold weather to hot weather and vice versa (check the weather forecast). 
  • Must be cute. I don't need to be sexy, but I do need to look cute. You will be out in public around a bunch of folk so its good to look your best. Plus, there just might be a fine ass single man in the seat next to you, I'm just saying (heeeey boo).
  • Minimal make-up. A little concealer and lip gloss and keep it moving. I don't have time to be checking how my make-up is looking and I don't want too much on since it may get ruined while sleeping. But, I don't want to look a hot mess either.
  • Small jewelry. Besides the fact that your big ass gold chain may set-off the metal detector, its also just annoying trying to sleep and get comfortable with some large hoop earrings and chunky necklace. Keep it small and basic.

Peep these pieces below that are great for mixing and matching on your next trip.

ASOS New Look Inspire Midi Cardigan

ASOS Cardigan
This cardigan is lightweight, flowy and oh so comfy cozy. Perfect for traveling AND layering.

Old Navy Rockstar Jeans

Old Navy Jean

I LOVE how the rockstar jeans fit. I have several pair in various washes and styles. They hug curves perfectly and are uber comfy.

Custom Plus Parental Advisory Tee

Custom Plus Tee

What I love about Custom Plus is you can get any top in tank, tee, crop, etc. Make this shirt your own!

Boohoo Amanda Midi Dress

This bodycon has a looser fit with allows room to move around and its midi length means you can bend over and reach overhead freely.

Footzyfolds Stella Flats

Have you heard of Footzyfolds? They make comfy shoes that fold up for taking anywhere. I bought a pair like these for my trip to Vegas and chiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiild boo these shoes are on point! They are so freaking comfortable and perfect for rolling up and taking with you in your purse for a night out when you are in heels and your feet start to scream.

Stylish Backpacks

I normally always have my backpack with me when I travel because its easy hands free transit. I am elated that stylish backpacks are in. Target has a fabulous assortment for every style!

What's your go-to piece when you travel?

Wednesday, July 16, 2014

Outfit of the Week: Low Budget Chic

I love a great deal. I am all about maximizing my budget. With a limited budget (thanks Sallie Mae!) I have to be smart about the clothes, shoes and accessories that I buy. As much as I would love nothing more than to buy a pair of Louboutins, a Louis bag or even to pay full price for something at Old Navy even (gasp) I just can't justify doing so on my budget. Therefore, my motto usually is if its not on sale, I don't have a coupon or its not from a discount retailer I rarely ever buy it. Thank God for TJ Maxx and Marshall's. And no, I don't buy anything full price from Old Navy or Target. I always have a coupon or hit up their sale/clearance racks.

Anywho, today my whole outfit is from some discount retailer. My top and maxi skirt are from Ross and my BCBGeneration wedges are from TJ Maxx; my necklace is from Target;  ring is from Old Navy (coupon of course); earrings from Forever 21; and my belt I took from a dress I had, which probably came from one of the above stores.

Who says you can't still look fly for less? My whole outfit was probably around $75.

Here are some items for a similar look:
Old Navy Maxi skirt
Forever 21 Earrings
Eloquii Scoop Neck Tee
Target Stone Cluster Necklace
Torrid Stretch Belt
DSW Michael Antonio Gladiator Sandal

What's your favorite place to shop on a budget?

Wednesday, July 9, 2014

Hot New Arrivals: Monif C

As always Monif C has gone and done the damn thing. I need this Tulip Sleeve Jumpsuit in every color. This red is doing the most! Yasssss chick yassss (in my Nicki Minaj voice). Monif C has an array of new arrivals but the jumpsuit, stripe high low sheer dress and mesh dress are my favorites. The bold colors I so love for my skin tone.

Shop Monif C New Arrivals

Which one is your favorite?

Friday, June 27, 2014

Top Plus Size Picks to Wear to Your 4th of July Event

I can't believe its almost July! This summer, and year, is flying by. I'm sure many of you have plans for the 4th of July. I hope to be grabbing plates of food from someone's cookout (who's inviting me??). No matter if you're chilling by the pool, at the beach, stuffing your face at a cookout or attending a party you need to look fly and patriotic of course. Below are my top picks to be USA Chic this 4th of July. Get your red, white & blue on.

Forever 21, Fiesta Bikini

I tried this bikini on and the high waist makes it wearable for everyone!

Easy, breezy...

This skirt is giving me life! Yassssss


I might need to cop these. 
This translates well for 4th of July events and for work

Perfect for a day or night party

Monif C, Heidi Stripe Yacht Dress
For that uber fabulous yacht party
Boohoo Plus, Lucy Short Sleeve Dress
Can't go wrong with a basic bodycon

Happy Shopping and Happy Independence Day!

Tuesday, June 24, 2014

Plus Size and Dating: I'm Grateful for my Break-Up

Yes, you read that right. I'm grateful for my break-up. Why? Because I learned a lot from it. I want to share my story (its long so bear with me) in hopes of helping someone become more confident, discover their self-worth, be more open-minded and to never settle for less than you deserve. THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE FOR EVERYONE.
February 2014 I had hit rock bottom. I sat in an Extended Stay hotel room staring at the guy I had been dating for 3 weeks who lived at this hotel because his criminal record made it hard for him to find a real apartment…yeaaaaa let that sink in.  WHY AM I HERE? I am soooo much better than this. I broke up with him the next day and vowed he'd be the last loser I'd ever date. My entire 20s had played out exactly like that. I would date guys I knew good and damn well I should not have been dating. Most had criminal records, no ambition, no future...the complete opposite of me, but they were attractive and they paid me attention and I was sick of being alone. However, my self-worth never allowed me to date them longer than a couple of months. Usually they would F up so bad that I cut them off or I would have the WHY AM I HERE moment and leave them. Only 2 seemingly decent guys in my adult life had made it passed the 2 month mark and they both broke my heart into a million pieces.
So, in early February when I had hit rock bottom I decided to take a break from dating. I had done more dating in the last 2 years than I had in my whole life and emotionally I was done. These men weren’t shit and I was tired of all the games, the tears and the foolishness. I closed out all of my online dating profiles and just focused on me. My mom kept telling me “when you've given up that's when he'll come along”. I just rolled my eyes. I was so over all these clich├ęs everyone was throwing at me.

Valentine’s Day was depressing as usual. To my surprise, I got a Happy Valentine’s Day text from a guy who I'll call “Jim”. It was out of the blue and it made me smile. I had met Jim on Facebook (I know right?) in August 2013. We were both in a dating group and he sent me a private message. We hit it off and even talked on the phone a few times. But, he lived in Phoenix, AZ and I live in North Carolina so I paid him no mind. Even though I immediately felt a connection with him I wrote him off. He'd call me sometimes and most of the time I wouldn't answer. He'd tell me to call him sometime and I wouldn't. I refused to develop feelings for someone so far away, fearing the outcome. My mom kept saying distance means nothing and to give him a chance.  Again, I rolled my eyes at her and my response was "ain't nobody going to Phoenix". Her response…you never know, you need to keep an open mind.
Palm Trees in Phoenix
After that text we kept in touch more frequently. Sometime in March he called me and we talked for a long time. He called me the next day and before I knew it we had talked every day for a week. From that point on things just began to fall into place. I loved our conversations; we had so much in common it was scary at times. He was different from any guy I had ever talked to…meaning he wasn’t an asshole and actually had something going for him (no criminal record!).
My 1st In-N-Out Burger (Phoenix)

I found out I had to go to San Jose for work in April, and as luck would have it my original flight to Cali got canceled. I had to fly out the next day on the only flight available and it had an hour layover in Phoenix (what are the odds right?). He met me at the airport and even though we only had about 30 min to hang out, it was great. As luck would have it again, I had to go to a conference for work in May and this time I was able to go to one in Phoenix. I was going to be there for 5 days. We had continued to talk every day in between seeing each other and I had developed an emotional connection with him. We had a great time in Phoenix, aside from it being John Blaze hot (dry heat my ass). When I got back, I received an opportunity to work a conference in Las Vegas in June. He met me there and stayed for the weekend and we had a great time.

When I got back home with no more trips lined up to see him, anxiety and panic set-in. What now? I began to think of all the reasons not to move forward with him. None of them were valid reasons, but I justified them so I wouldn’t have to deal with the possibility of being hurt. I didn’t really want to end it with him, but I couldn’t bear the thought of him breaking it off with me or telling me he didn’t want anything serious, so I broke it off and blamed it on the distance. I could’ve made the distance work. I have plenty of friends with happy endings from long distance relationships. But, I found every excuse for why I shouldn’t try to make it work, because it was safer and easier that way. It was as if I was telling myself I didn't deserve to be happy.
When we finally had the dreaded “talk” I wondered if I was making a mistake. I'd finally found a man that I had been praying to find for years; God moved mountains for us to have the experiences that we had and here I was throwing it all away. WTF is wrong with me? Then Jim said the words that finalized everything, “I realized that I really don’t want any more kids”. I literally felt my heart breaking and it took everything in me not to start balling my eyes out. There was my answer. I want a child, he doesn’t, this really is the end. Our luck had finally run out, and on Friday the 13th no less. I’ve cried every day since the day he left Vegas until yesterday. I withdrew from everyone and everything, I tried to avoid anything and everything that reminded me of him (of course the guy sitting next to me on my flight home was wearing the same cologne he wears UGH), my excitement for the Bruno Mars concert turned to dread for fear of bursting out into tears (I only cried during 2 songs for the record), I deleted Facebook on my phone, I removed myself from the group in which we met, and I became a shell of myself.
Many people wouldn’t understand why I was so devastated over something that lasted less than 4 months. 
CONFESSION: I am 31 years old and I had NEVER been in love before, not even close, until now.
For the first time in my life I allowed myself to fall for someone, to let my guard down and to be more vulnerable. For the first time in my life, I met someone who was worth me falling for. And to think I almost didn’t give him a chance. Not only was I hesitant about the distance at first, but on paper he didn’t fit my criteria. A guy never got a chance with me if he was older than 40, had more than one kid or if he had a kid over the age of 6. He is 42 and has a 21 year old daughter. I didn’t find out those things until after I already liked him. I believe we met on Facebook for a reason, because if I had met him on any other site, I would have missed out on the best dating experience of my life so far.

Almost every guy I’d ever dated up to that point had made me feel like shit. Backhanded comments like I was pretty for a dark skin girl, I would be pretty if I lost 20 pounds, I didn’t look as good with my real hair. Jim was the first guy to appreciate me as I was. He loved dark skin women. He loved my curves. He loved my natural hair. For the first time I felt like I was enough as I was and someone wanted me as I am.
But, I remained confused about why we were put together and things fell into place so well only for it to dissolve so quickly. Yesterday I had an epiphany while talking to Jim. I realized why we had been put together: so that I could finally learn to love myself as I am, so that I could become more confident, so that I could see what it’s like to have a really good man who treated me the way I am supposed to be treated and to never go backwards and settle for less ever again. (and I got a good friend out of it).
I'm finally OK with everything and no more tears have been shed (#progress). 
I said allllllllll that to say:
  • BE WHO YOU ARE. No matter who you are, what you look like YOU ARE ENOUGH
  • Continue to improve yourself, but DO YOU BOO. Be open to a variety of men (or women) and experiences. You never know where a simple email or hello can go.  
  • Try not to overthink it, just let it flow naturally and be open to all outcomes. Even if it doesn’t work out, you will probably learn something from it.   
  • If you are single and becoming discouraged, there ARE good men left. If you are out there settling for less than you deserve STOP IT NOW. Hold yourself to high standards and the right man for you will fall in line with them and appreciate you as you are. 
  • You don’t have to wear a ton of make-up, get weaves, dress in tight clothes, lose weight, none of that. Trust and believe that there is a man out there for you who loves ALL of you. If you want to do those things, make sure you are doing it FOR YOU and no one else. You have to love you first or you won’t be ready to receive a good man’s love when he comes along.

Do you have a dating story? Do you have advice for how to love yourself? How did you get to be confident? I’d love to hear from you!

Wednesday, June 4, 2014

How to Still Be Cute in Hot Weather: Cool and Chic Clothing

Hopefully you checked out part one of this post  that provided tips on staying dry and not stinky during the summer months. Keeping with the theme I'm providing some key clothing staples that will help you to stay chic, cool and dry on hot summer days and nights.

Key Clothing Items to Look Cool and Chic this Summer

  • Shorts. I'm generally not a fan of shorts but I will rock some bermuda shorts. I only wear short shorts on occasion when I know I won't be doing a ton of walking. For those of you who like short shorts or bermudas, here are two great options. These Genius Fit denim bermuda shorts from Lane Bryant are comfortable and chic enough for day or night and these tulip shorts from Forever 21 will have you flaunting those legs like a BOSS. 

Wednesday, May 28, 2014

My First Monif C Purchase: Mozambique Swimsuit

My favorite designer in the world is Monif C. Every time she puts out something new my jaw literrally drops!

I finally went ahead and made my first Monif C. purchase. I bought the Mozambique swimsuit in fuchsia AKA my favorite color. I can't wait to wear it this summer.

I'm all about sexy swimdresses. I have hips for days and prefer them to be hidden. This swimsuit is figure flattering and brings a hint of sexy. That belt creates a nice waist.

First, let me tell you the quality and construction of this suit is everything. There is a built-in wire for the breast area, which provides more support than any suit I've ever had. The fabric is thick and holds you in and there is some boning in there for even more support. In other words, worth the price! Monif uses high quality fabrics and construction. Truly high-end and meant to last. I got a size bigger than I normally wear and it's slightly too big, but not overly so that it looks bad or anything. So, I'd say it fits true to size. Once I finally hit the beach in the few weeks I'll share some pics!

For now, get your own for a steal of $86 at Always for Me.
Plus, check out the latest in swimwear from Monif C.
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